We often think that healing looks like a linear unidirectional upward graph but the reality is that healing looks like a spiral unwinding. Healing includes within it failures and setbacks but also the ability to bounce back from it. Healing includes understanding your maladaptive behavioural pattern and slowly unwinding it, one step at a time. It is not a guarantee that you won’t slip again but rather equipping yourself with resources to bounce back when you do slip. Healing is a continuous process of learning which will eventually empower you to deal with your difficulties efficiently. Healing is having a curious and positive outlook towards yourself and life which will ultimately enable you to overcome all your difficulties.

I only wish for people to be as kind to themselves as they are to others, in their words and their acts. How you talk to and treat yourself is as important as how you talk to and treat others. As a prerequisite for healing to occur, it is necessary we be mindful of the language and words we use to define ourself. Instead of having a language which is dismissive or unhelpful in our journey towards self-growth, it is necessary we identify our need and communicate it clearly. After all, ask and you shall receive. 

Contrary to popular belief, healing does not constitute feeling ‘zen’, 'Happy' or ‘at peace’ for the rest of your life. Rather, healing translates as allowing yourself to feel all the emotions there are and to regulate them efficiently. Healing requires you to let all the difficult emotions flow through you and slowly gain control over them. Healing means feeling the strongest emotions and not letting those emotions overpower you. You are healing when you understand that your emotions are not your enemy but only wish for you to acknowledge them.